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The 3-10-30 method to make changes stick!

“Practice becomes grounded when attended to for a long time, without a gap, with honor and respect.” – Patanjali Yoga Sutras

Nothing works – part 2

You know those people that try a new thing and lo and behold, their kid’s transformation is magical, everything works right for them,

those people that post their annoying running pics where they have look sleek and athletic and everything you want to look like without actually running…

those people whose kids with disabilities are apparently running triathlons where our kids won’t get out of bed,

Turns out there is a 2-step framework for making this happen

  1. Doing the right thing
  2. Doing it DAILY

And it’s not an easy task to find the right thing to do!!

For example, my husband claims that running everyday can help me be fit. I hate running. It is NOT the right thing for me. I am never going to do it daily. And I would collapse from anger, frustration and annoyance if I did!

The right technique makes sense, you know how to implement it, and you don’t hate it.

And there is a clincher – the right technique can be done by yourself without outsourcing (sure, out source if you need to)…

The right technique brings change, however, ONLY WHEN YOU DO IT DAILY, regularly.

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And so I’d like to introduce you to the 3-10-30 technique.

When starting a habit, when you want a technique to stick, try it for:

3 times a day

10 mins (at the beginning at least) each time

30 days CONTINUOUSLY, without gap.

Some of the things I started working on using the 3-10-30 method were:

  1. Exercising
  2. Teaching my son age-appropriate math and science
  3. Writing lesson plans
  4. Creating an anti-inflammatory meal plan and prepping for the next day

Keep in mind that choosing the right thing is critical.
So, how do you choose the right thing to do? Check out my podcast, and last week’s newsletter, for more tips.

So, find the right intervention, and use the 3-10-30 technique to do it everyday!

Onward,
Vaish

p.s. I’d LOVE it if you would write to me and tell me what you are starting with. Maybe like an accountability partner.

130 When therapies and diets don’t work for your child

130 When therapies and diets don’t work for your child

If you find yourself trying diet after diet after therapy after therapy and nothing seems to either work or stick, nothing seems to take hold, this is the episode for you.

Tune in to learn:

  • the 3 pillars of core therapeutic changes that often work symbiotically to create change.
  • why even anti-inflammatory diets sometimes fail
  • the therapies that never work (for most people)

You can get my free book on the 6 learning hacks here.

 

 

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Disclaimer: The information in this Podcast is for educational purposes only. Vaishnavi Sarathy, Ph.D. is an educator, not a doctor, specifically not your child’s doctor. Please consult your physician before implementing any supplement or diet recommendations.

When changes dont stick

“Education without stability will not stick. Stability without education has no value!”

Welcome back,

I have missed chatting with you – and I am back with a very important newsletter.

I hear from dozens of parents every month telling me they have tried everything and either:

  • nothing works, or
  • nothing sticks.

So first, you are not alone, if you have seen this.

But second, there is a reason that this happens.

It turns out that there are a few critical factors that are super important in helping our kids learn, and that these factors work symbiotically – which means that each one of them supports the other.

If you have only done diet, that is not enough. Your child is healthy, but bored to death.

If you are waiting for magical speech to show up, or for apps on the iPad to do their magic, remember the most complex communication we have seen in Autistic kids comes from low-tech letter boarding techniques such as RPM and S2C.

If you have done reflexes to death, congratulations, your child’s body has developed its intelligence, but it is now time to feed it with age appropriate education.

In this podcast, I talk about reasons that diets and even communication strategies sometimes don’t work in a vacuum and what you can do to help that work.

But in a nutshell, here’s the answer:

Communication, Education, Anti-Inflammatory Diets, Biomedical Interventions and Movement Therapies work in a complex web of symbiosis. We really need at least 3 of them to work together – appropriate communication, eating food that heals, nourishes and does not inflame, and moving so that your body knows where it is in space.

The cherry on the pie is to be unrelenting is Assuming Intelligence in your child no matter what people tell you.

You can listen to the podcast here.

Onward my friend!

Vaish

129 How to do the work that brings change this year!

129 How to do the work that brings change this year!

If you are tired of working day and night with your child and not seeing the needle move, if you are tired of being tired, and if you are ready to see change happen, I will tell you exactly what to do in this episode.

We think that parents who bring change in their kids lives are PATIENT, HARDWORKING and INTENSE.

We couldn’t be more wrong – well, ok, the intense part could be right.

Patience and hard work have nothing to do with results, with change. What does?

Listen on …

You can find Vaish’s 6 learning strategies here: https://www.functionalnutritionforkids.com/learning

Follow Vaish on Instagram for daily inspiration.

 

 

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Disclaimer: The information in this Podcast is for educational purposes only. Vaishnavi Sarathy, Ph.D. is an educator, not a doctor, specifically not your child’s doctor. Please consult your physician before implementing any supplement or diet recommendations.

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If you are tired of working day and night with your child and not seeing the needle move, if you are tired of being tired, and if you are ready to see change happen, I will tell you exactly what to do in this episode:

Let’s talk about how to do the work that brings change in your child with disability, in your family and in yourself, this year!

Welcome to Functional Nutrition and Learning for Kids, where we explore ways to learn in the zone, through gut health and learning strategies, through peace, calm, and commitment. 

I am  Dr. Vaish Sarathy – Functional Nutrition Practitioner, Chemist, a Math and Science teacher, AND mom to a non-speaking autistic teen poet with Down Syndrome.

Over the years I have found inspiration in many people – currently I have a list of 5 people I listen to with utmost devotion – and I will reveal this list slowly. But I am actually going to quote 2 of them in this episode. 

At number 2, is James Clear, the Author of Atomic Habits – and even if you haven’t read the book – which I have not completely, do subscribe to his weekly newsletter – that is so on-point that I use it as my north star some days.

At number 5 is Mark Manson, the author of “The Subtle Art of not giving a F*uck” – side note – I don’t know who listens to this podcast – but I am keeping off the swear words.

In Mark Manson’s end-of-the-year podcast – the podcast has the same name as his book – do listen to it, btw, in his podcast, he referenced my guru #4 Tim Ferris as the author of this mantra to increase productivity – “How can I make this more fun”? 

By THIS, it is whatever it is that you are doing, that you need to be doing more of, where you want to be productive, and where you want to move along.

Let’s talk about working with your autistic child, teaching your child with Down Syndrome, even making anti-inflammatory meals for your child. 

It is a chore. You have work to do, you don’t have time, and when you do have time, you might want to just Netflix and Chill (I mean this literally, not like THAT)!.

There are a few things to unpack right here – while there is no hard statistical evidence to show this – just through anecdotal evidence, I can say with a lot of certainty that teaching really cannot be outsourced.

Significant change happens ONLY when a parent or primary caregiver takes the primary responsibility of working towards that change.

Again, no pressure right?

And if you were to look at all of the parents who are able to commit time to working with their kids, teaching their kids, and if you were to look at families where growth has happened, change has happened, if I were ask you to guess – to guess what do  you think a common trait is among these parents, what would you guess?

Take a minute – 

Patience? No it is not patience – in fact if I were to include myself in this category of parents who are able to work easily and effectively with their kids, I would like to confess that I am probably the most impatient person you have met. 

And no, it is not hard work either.

Parents who have fun working with their kids – yes, with their Autistic kids, with their kids with Down Syndrome, whether speaking or non-speaking, looking or not looking, mobile or not mobile, parents who have fun – get the work done, because it is FUN!

And that’s why I think my #3 guru, Tim Ferris is a freaking genius, sorry my #4 guru! Yes, I do realize that #1 and #3 are still in suspense, you will find out in a later podcast. 

If you want to make any change this year with your child with a disability, that change will ONLY happen if you ask yourself –  “How can I make this more fun?”

Yes, I know how simple that sounds, but it is not just simple, it is remarkably effective, because here’s another hard truth – look around you, when things aren’t fun, they don’t work.

If Math is boring, your student will NOT learn math. If they do, by some miracle, they won’t remember it. 

I remember that I had enrolled in a so-called neurodevelopmental program years ago – and I actually did learn some good stuff there. They would evaluate your child’s developmental profile and send you home with a list of exercises you had to do, about 10-15 times a day, every day, under the assumption that increased frequency help habits form.

Guess what happened. I didn’t do it. I tried for a few days, it wasn’t fun for me, it wasn’t fun for Sid, it didn’t happen. 

The best and most transformative changes are done for a short time everyday – they are done with intensity, with joy. 

To make this point a little more clear, let me share with you, 5 ways that you can make the day absolutely NOT fun:

  1. Your child is doing 20 hours or even better, 40 hours of ABA per week
  2. You have been teaching addition for 3 months, or better, 3 years
  3. Your student is doing a 3 page Math worksheet everyday
  4. You come back from work and have your child crawl back and forth across the home per your neurodevelopmental program, followed by 10 other exercises that need to be done before sleeping.
  5. You are reading the same lesson on dinosaurs and fossils everyday for the past 5 days, because you aren’t sure your child understands.

See, boredom is the opposite of fun. 

When your child is bored, they won’t learn, But here is the clincher, when YOU are bored, you are unlikely to work with your child, or give 100% to the work you are doing. 

I got this quote from my #2 James Clear today: 

“New goals don’t deliver new results. New lifestyles do. And a lifestyle is a process, not an outcome. For this reason, all of your energy should go into building better habits, not chasing better results.”

And maybe, this better habit can be asking yourself the question: “How can I make this more fun”

Are you teaching math, and you are frustrated – ask yourself, “how can I make this more fun”.

Here are 5 ways to make Math more fun:

  1. Work with recipes and cooking
  2. Teach stories and history and scandalous gossip behind Math theorems and Science Discoveries
  3. Keep your lessons under 10 mins
  4. Do not require your student to answer questions – just share the information.
  5. Teach something that has a WOW factor – like the presence of the fibonacci sequence in Music.

See, the potential of your child to learn is unlimited – whether they have Down Syndrome, whether they are Autistic, whether they have seizures, whether they have any sort of intellectual diagnosis. Learning pathways are unique and different, but everyone can learn.

So you have to teach a child who may not be able to show you that they can learn. How can you make this process more fun?

I have an additional challenge for you – if you can vibrate with enthusiasm and eagerness for the lesson, I can guarantee you that this year is YOURS for the win!

See you next week!

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LIBSYN  BLURB:

If you are tired of working day and night with your child and not seeing the needle move, if you are tired of being tired, and if you are ready to see change happen, I will tell you exactly what to do in this episode.

We think that parents who bring change in their kids lives are PATIENT, HARDWORKING and INTENSE.

We couldn’t be more wrong – well, ok, the intense part could be right. 

Patience and hard work have nothing to do with results, with change. What does?

Listen on …

You can find Vaish’s 6 learning strategies here: https://www.functionalnutritionforkids.com/learning

Follow Vaish on Instagram for daily inspiration.

How to do the work that brings change this year!

“New goals don’t deliver new results. New lifestyles do. And a lifestyle is a process, not an outcome.” – JAMES CLEAR

Happy New Year!

I am so excited to have you here, this new year, with the intention to do things just a bit differently this year.

So, I think New Year Resolutions are very yesterday. I mean you and I know how well they (don’t) work.

But that doesn’t mean that change is impossible – Change simply doesn’t come from new goals. It comes from new ways of looking, new mindsets.

In this week’s podcast episode, I take you to perhaps the most important step – the HOW TO – HOW TO DO THE WORK THAT BRINGS CHANGE THIS YEAR!

I am going to give you the answer right here:

Ask yourself the question “How can I make my work more fun?”

This new year, don’t be MORE PATIENT or MORE HARDWORKING, or MORE DILIGENT. Those things are less important than being:

  1. INTENSELY COMMITTED, and
  2. ACTIVELY TRYING TO HAVE FUN while working with your child.

While you get ready to listen to the podcast, let me share with you 3 ways to make learning NOT FUN for your learner, for your child:

  1. Your child is doing 20 hours or even better, 40 hours of ABA per week
  2. You have been teaching addition for 3 months, or better, 3 years
  3. You come back from work and have your child crawl back and forth across the home per your neuro-developmental program, followed by 10 other exercises that need to be done before sleeping.

Do listen to the episode for more! And if you are inspired, drop the podcast a review on iTunes

Onward my friend,

In pursuit of learning and fun,

Vaish

5 things I learned in 2023!

“Do not limit a child to your own learning for (s)he was born in another time”- Rabindranath Tagore

5 things I learned in 2023!

2023 has been the year of great change, most of it internal. And here, without much ado, are 5 things I learned in 2023:

  1. Resolutions mean nothing but Routines (and Habits) mean everything! As I enter the new year, I have habits that are guiding my day such as:

    – A Morning Routine that includes meditation
    – Dietary guidelines (not rules, just guidelines)
    – Personal Work Boundaries
    – Dedicated Times to work with my son 

  2. ADHD can present in many ways, that I have ADHD, and accepting, celebrating and working with my ADHD helps me move the needle, way more than trying to quash it. 
  3. Teaching cannot be outsourced. The biggest change to a child’s learning happens when a parent / primary caregiver works with them. 
  4. Co-regulation may be the most important idea in disability education. My child’s learning and regulation depends on my regulation. So I need to get it together first, so we can grow together. 
  5. Ekla Chalo Re. Support groups can both support and hinder my growth. And at the end of they day, it is only my moral compass that can guide me. Rabindranath Tagore’s beautiful and empowering Ekla Chalo Re has been the voice of inspiration to millions, and continues to be my mantra for the new year.  The linked video has the song and the translation]

My wish for you is that your find your path toward your goal, in a direction that feels intrinsically right this new year.

Onward, my friend!

Vaish

And a very Happy New Year!

128 Brain Shift- A Program to Transform Your Busy Brain w. Dr Romie Mushtaq

128 Brain Shift- A Program to Transform Your Busy Brain w. Dr Romie Mushtaq

In this episode, Dr. Romie Mushtaq, a board-certified neurologist, discusses her journey from a traditional Western-style medical model to a mindfulness-based approach to stress.

Dr. Romie emphasizes the importance of her SHIFT protocol in managing stress.

Sleep

Hormones

Inflammation

Food, and

Technology

While a lot of Dr. Romie’s focus has been on workplace burnout, in this episode she talks to the chronic stress that sometimes parents (especially moms) of children with disability experience.

Tune in to learn about:

  1. The top 3 ways to address burnout and the “freeze response” in moms

  2. What the step prior to gratitude is (it’s ok to not start from gratitude)

  3. How we can redefine self care to not just survive but thrive under chronic stress.

You can take Dr. Romie’s Busy Brain Test at https://drromie.com/busy-brain-test/

Make sure to pre-order her book The Busy Brain Cure today – it will be out in Jan 2024.

You can find Dr. Romie Mushtaq at drromie.com or  www.instagram.com/drromie

 

 

 

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Disclaimer: The information in this Podcast is for educational purposes only. Vaishnavi Sarathy, Ph.D. is an educator, not a doctor, specifically not your child’s doctor. Please consult your physician before implementing any supplement or diet recommendations.

What’s the best time to start your child’s Anti-Inflammatory Diet

“When will the waves stop? When can I bathe in the sea?”
– Tamil Proverb, source unknown

Should you start your child’s therapeutic diet now!

Are you waiting to finish that trip, this Christmas, that family gathering, before you start your child’s diet?

My initial journey through my son’s anti-inflammatory diet was not easy. It didn’t start with perfection.

The quest for perfect adherence to a diet will make sure you never start.

Through my rather long and intense journey through the world of therapeutic diets, I learned many things, 3 of these are:

  1. It is critical to get started
  2. Allow yourself to fail liberally initially
  3. Find a balance and stick to it for a few months.

There is no perfect season, or perfect time.

The best time, as my mentor Soma Mukhopadhyay says, was yesterday. Well, at least let’s start today.

In a month, Roadmap to Attention and Regulation will launch. If you want early dibs and a discount, you can join the waitlist now.

I did a rather informal survey a few months ago – where based on an Autistic child or teen’s regulation, I inquired if they were on a specific diet, and I found a remarkable occurrence.

Out of say, about 50 kids, preteens and teens I surveyed, or talked to their parents, as the case may be, every kid who was stable, regulated and comfortable in their body was on some version of an anti-inflammatory diet.

I want to take you back to an older episode I did last year where I talk about the 2 biggest myths in the world of therapeutic nutrition.

Hint: Myth 1: Everything is OK in moderation.

So what I am trying to say, is that a) commit to an anti-inflammatory diet, and b) get start in whatever way.

If you need help, ROAR is open for you next month!

Onward my friend!

Vaish

p.s. Yes, I do have a breakfast recipe for you – this time I am routing you to a link –  The Most Amazing Almond Flour Pancakes

[3 Point Focus] The deal with talking to schools and more…

“Compliance and Education are not the same thing. A student may look asthough they are complying but that does not mean they are engaged andlearning.” – Lisa Wright

What are the top 3 things I need to know to communicate with my child’s school team?

Welcome to this Friday’s 3 point Focus:
Today’s newsletter includes:

  1. 3 strategies to communicate with school
  2. A research paper focus and summary
  3. A recipe for your child’s lunch box 🙂

So, What are the 3 things you can remember when you are communicating with your child’s school?

I am going to keep it simple and just go directly to the list here. But I do want to request that you listen to this simply fabulous conversation with Lisa Wright, IEP Coach.

My recommendations are based on this podcast + my experience.

1. Intensely and Aggressively Assume Intelligence – this means that do not let the school system influence you into imagining that your child is not smart. My TEDx talk can help you understand this idea a bit more.

2. Take time to prepare and communicate with your child’s team. Don’t react.  Emotional triggers are ever present when we talk about our kids. But are rarely helpful in conversations. Respect for the school, Respect for our kids, and Preparation can go a long way in helping our kids achieve their goals.

3. Talk to your child’s team about compliance vs engagement and learning. Be clear on what their goals are. For most neurodivergent kids, compliance and learning actually DONT go together. You can say something like the quote at the beginning of the newsletter and follow up with “do we want our learner to be compliant or do we want them to learn?”

Onward my friend!
Vaish
p.s. Don’t forget to keep scrolling for my favorite study this week and a lunch recipe I love!

RESEARCH FOCUS

Added sugar and dietary fiber consumption are associated with creativity in preadolescent children, Hassevoort et al, 2018, Nutritional Neuroscience

The results were very simple and stark:

  • Pre-adolescent kids (average age 9) were studied
  • Creativity (especially associated with the memory and spatial recognition center of the brain – hippocampus) reduced with increased sugar intake
  • Creativity increased with increased fiber intake

TAKEAWAY – Eat whole foods. Minimize added sugar. The more sugar your kid eats, the more their creativity may be impacted.

This one is a spicy recipe - but has an amazing mix of protein, fiber, polyphenols and digestive spices that (some) kids LOVE!

127 Navigating Schools and IEPs for Neurodivergent Learners – with Lisa Wright

127 Navigating Schools and IEPs for Neurodivergent Learners – with Lisa Wright

Compliance and Education are not the same thing. A student may look as though they are complying but that does not mean they are engaged and learning.” – Lisa Wright

Join Dr. Vaish Sarathy in this episode to dive into a transformative conversation on education and inclusion for Autistic children and children with Down Syndrome in schools with IEP coach Lisa Wright. If IEPs are challenging for you, if you spend restless nights awake in sheer terror anticipating a meeting and after an IEP meeting or a meeting with your child’s school, this episode is for you!

In this episode you will learn about:

– The number 1 skill that teachers can benefit from…

– Why your student is more than a “buddy” or “kiddo”

– Common conflicts at IEP meetings
– Tools for parents to help navigate school meetings
– Why compliance and engagement are different

– Why goals should focus on the learner strengths, not behaviors.

– What a neurodiversity affirming IEP looks like!

You can find Lisa Wright at https://www.lisabaskinwright.com/ or on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lisabaskinwright/

 

 

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Disclaimer: The information in this Podcast is for educational purposes only. Vaishnavi Sarathy, Ph.D. is an educator, not a doctor, specifically not your child’s doctor. Please consult your physician before implementing any supplement or diet recommendations.