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If you are tired of working day and night with your child and not seeing the needle move, if you are tired of being tired, and if you are ready to see change happen, I will tell you exactly what to do in this episode.

We think that parents who bring change in their kids lives are PATIENT, HARDWORKING and INTENSE.

We couldn’t be more wrong – well, ok, the intense part could be right.

Patience and hard work have nothing to do with results, with change. What does?

Listen on …

You can find Vaish’s 6 learning strategies here: https://www.functionalnutritionforkids.com/learning

Follow Vaish on Instagram for daily inspiration.

 

 

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Disclaimer: The information in this Podcast is for educational purposes only. Vaishnavi Sarathy, Ph.D. is an educator, not a doctor, specifically not your child’s doctor. Please consult your physician before implementing any supplement or diet recommendations.

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If you are tired of working day and night with your child and not seeing the needle move, if you are tired of being tired, and if you are ready to see change happen, I will tell you exactly what to do in this episode:

Let’s talk about how to do the work that brings change in your child with disability, in your family and in yourself, this year!

Welcome to Functional Nutrition and Learning for Kids, where we explore ways to learn in the zone, through gut health and learning strategies, through peace, calm, and commitment. 

I am  Dr. Vaish Sarathy – Functional Nutrition Practitioner, Chemist, a Math and Science teacher, AND mom to a non-speaking autistic teen poet with Down Syndrome.

Over the years I have found inspiration in many people – currently I have a list of 5 people I listen to with utmost devotion – and I will reveal this list slowly. But I am actually going to quote 2 of them in this episode. 

At number 2, is James Clear, the Author of Atomic Habits – and even if you haven’t read the book – which I have not completely, do subscribe to his weekly newsletter – that is so on-point that I use it as my north star some days.

At number 5 is Mark Manson, the author of “The Subtle Art of not giving a F*uck” – side note – I don’t know who listens to this podcast – but I am keeping off the swear words.

In Mark Manson’s end-of-the-year podcast – the podcast has the same name as his book – do listen to it, btw, in his podcast, he referenced my guru #4 Tim Ferris as the author of this mantra to increase productivity – “How can I make this more fun”? 

By THIS, it is whatever it is that you are doing, that you need to be doing more of, where you want to be productive, and where you want to move along.

Let’s talk about working with your autistic child, teaching your child with Down Syndrome, even making anti-inflammatory meals for your child. 

It is a chore. You have work to do, you don’t have time, and when you do have time, you might want to just Netflix and Chill (I mean this literally, not like THAT)!.

There are a few things to unpack right here – while there is no hard statistical evidence to show this – just through anecdotal evidence, I can say with a lot of certainty that teaching really cannot be outsourced.

Significant change happens ONLY when a parent or primary caregiver takes the primary responsibility of working towards that change.

Again, no pressure right?

And if you were to look at all of the parents who are able to commit time to working with their kids, teaching their kids, and if you were to look at families where growth has happened, change has happened, if I were ask you to guess – to guess what do  you think a common trait is among these parents, what would you guess?

Take a minute – 

Patience? No it is not patience – in fact if I were to include myself in this category of parents who are able to work easily and effectively with their kids, I would like to confess that I am probably the most impatient person you have met. 

And no, it is not hard work either.

Parents who have fun working with their kids – yes, with their Autistic kids, with their kids with Down Syndrome, whether speaking or non-speaking, looking or not looking, mobile or not mobile, parents who have fun – get the work done, because it is FUN!

And that’s why I think my #3 guru, Tim Ferris is a freaking genius, sorry my #4 guru! Yes, I do realize that #1 and #3 are still in suspense, you will find out in a later podcast. 

If you want to make any change this year with your child with a disability, that change will ONLY happen if you ask yourself –  “How can I make this more fun?”

Yes, I know how simple that sounds, but it is not just simple, it is remarkably effective, because here’s another hard truth – look around you, when things aren’t fun, they don’t work.

If Math is boring, your student will NOT learn math. If they do, by some miracle, they won’t remember it. 

I remember that I had enrolled in a so-called neurodevelopmental program years ago – and I actually did learn some good stuff there. They would evaluate your child’s developmental profile and send you home with a list of exercises you had to do, about 10-15 times a day, every day, under the assumption that increased frequency help habits form.

Guess what happened. I didn’t do it. I tried for a few days, it wasn’t fun for me, it wasn’t fun for Sid, it didn’t happen. 

The best and most transformative changes are done for a short time everyday – they are done with intensity, with joy. 

To make this point a little more clear, let me share with you, 5 ways that you can make the day absolutely NOT fun:

  1. Your child is doing 20 hours or even better, 40 hours of ABA per week
  2. You have been teaching addition for 3 months, or better, 3 years
  3. Your student is doing a 3 page Math worksheet everyday
  4. You come back from work and have your child crawl back and forth across the home per your neurodevelopmental program, followed by 10 other exercises that need to be done before sleeping.
  5. You are reading the same lesson on dinosaurs and fossils everyday for the past 5 days, because you aren’t sure your child understands.

See, boredom is the opposite of fun. 

When your child is bored, they won’t learn, But here is the clincher, when YOU are bored, you are unlikely to work with your child, or give 100% to the work you are doing. 

I got this quote from my #2 James Clear today: 

“New goals don’t deliver new results. New lifestyles do. And a lifestyle is a process, not an outcome. For this reason, all of your energy should go into building better habits, not chasing better results.”

And maybe, this better habit can be asking yourself the question: “How can I make this more fun”

Are you teaching math, and you are frustrated – ask yourself, “how can I make this more fun”.

Here are 5 ways to make Math more fun:

  1. Work with recipes and cooking
  2. Teach stories and history and scandalous gossip behind Math theorems and Science Discoveries
  3. Keep your lessons under 10 mins
  4. Do not require your student to answer questions – just share the information.
  5. Teach something that has a WOW factor – like the presence of the fibonacci sequence in Music.

See, the potential of your child to learn is unlimited – whether they have Down Syndrome, whether they are Autistic, whether they have seizures, whether they have any sort of intellectual diagnosis. Learning pathways are unique and different, but everyone can learn.

So you have to teach a child who may not be able to show you that they can learn. How can you make this process more fun?

I have an additional challenge for you – if you can vibrate with enthusiasm and eagerness for the lesson, I can guarantee you that this year is YOURS for the win!

See you next week!

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If you are tired of working day and night with your child and not seeing the needle move, if you are tired of being tired, and if you are ready to see change happen, I will tell you exactly what to do in this episode.

We think that parents who bring change in their kids lives are PATIENT, HARDWORKING and INTENSE.

We couldn’t be more wrong – well, ok, the intense part could be right. 

Patience and hard work have nothing to do with results, with change. What does?

Listen on …

You can find Vaish’s 6 learning strategies here: https://www.functionalnutritionforkids.com/learning

Follow Vaish on Instagram for daily inspiration.